Tau meltdowns thiab txawm tiv thaiv lawv nrog cov lus qhia yooj yim no!
Ob tug txaus ntshai, treacherous threes, thiab ferocious fours. Qhov no yog lub sij hawm thaum cov me nyuam me pom lawv txoj kev xav, kev xav, thiab kev ntshai. Nws tseem yog thaum me nyuam me me meltdowns tshwm sim. Koj yuav pab tau tus menyuam li cas? Thiab koj yuav tiv thaiv lawv li cas? Cov lus qhia thiab kev ua kom yuam kev no tuaj yeem pab ua kom lub sijhawm no tswj tau ntau dua.
Yuav ua li cas pab tus me nyuam muaj kev kub ntxhov
Raws li koj tus me nyuam pib hloov mus rau hauv lawv cov theem meltdown, siv cov tswv yim no los pab lawv siab.
Implement Active Listening
Txhua tus xav pom thiab hnov. Kev mloog nquag yog ib hom kev sib txuas lus uas muab qhov tseem ceeb rau cov kev xav tau no. Thaum koj tus menyuam me tab tom muaj kev kub ntxhov, nres qhov koj tab tom ua thiab tshem tawm kev cuam tshuam. Tig lub TV, tig lub xov tooj cua hauv lub tsheb, thiab hais kom lwm tus kwv tij nyob ntsiag to thaum koj hais qhov teeb meem no.
Tom qab ntawd, nqis los ntawm lawv qib. Qhov no txhais tau tias txhos caug rau hauv pem teb kom koj nyob ntawm qhov muag nrog koj tus menyuam. Ua siab mos siab muag nug lawv tias yog dab tsi thiab ces cia lawv muaj hauv pem teb. Tsis txhob cuam tshuam txog thaum lawv ua tiav. Yog tias lawv tseem tsis yog lus, nug lawv yog thiab tsis muaj lus nug kom lawv tuaj yeem muab tswv yim rau koj txog qhov teeb meem. Thaum qhov kev sib pauv no tab tom mus, tswj qhov muag, ntsej muag, thiab qhia kev txhawj xeeb tiag tiag. Thaum koj txiav txim siab qhov ua rau koj tus menyuam poob qis, lees paub lawv txoj kev xav thiab muab cov kev daws teeb meem.
Xav txog tej yam tshwm sim
Thaum tus menyuam quaj, cov niam txiv cia li nug seb tus menyuam qhuav, tshaib plab, kub dhau, lossis txias dhau. Vim li cas qhov kev xav no dheev nres thaum lawv dhau los ua menyuam yaus? Thaum muaj kev kub ntxhov lossis kev kub ntxhov tshwm sim, nug koj tus kheej:
- Puas lawv tshaib plab?
- Puas ntub dej?
- Puas yog ze rau lub sijhawm pw?
- Hnub no puas tau pw zoo?
- Puas yog hnub dhau hwv lawm? (piv txwv li lawv mus kawm ntawv, pom cov txheeb ze, siv zog ntau, thiab lwm yam)
- Puas tsis tau txais kev saib xyuas txaus?
- Puas lawv mob siab?
- Puas yog lawv nyuaj siab?
- Puas mob mob?
Cov menyuam yaus tsis nco qab paub tias vim li cas lawv chim. Nws yog niam txiv txoj hauj lwm los txiav txim qhov teeb meem thiab muab cov kev daws teeb meem.
Hloov koj ib puag ncig
Yog tias koj tus menyuam me nyuam qhuav pib muaj qhov tawg, nws tuaj yeem yog vim muaj kev xav ntau dhau. Txoj hauv kev zoo tshaj los daws qhov teeb meem no tsuas yog mus rau lwm qhov. Txawm hais tias qhov no tuaj yeem tsis yooj yim rau lub sijhawm, nws tseem ceeb heev uas yuav tsum nco ntsoov tias cov menyuam yaus muaj kev nkag siab ntau dua rau qee qhov stimuli, xws li suab nrov, lub teeb ci, lossis qee hom kev kov (piv txwv li, lawv pob ntseg raug kuaj xyuas ntawm kws kho mob). Qhov no tuaj yeem ua rau cov khw muag khoom nrov nrov, cov khw muag khoom noj uas muaj neeg coob coob, thiab cov kws kho mob cov chaw ua haujlwm tseem ceeb rau cov kev tawm tsam no. Yog li, lob yam koj xav tau thiab tawm mus raws sijhawm, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog tias nws ze rau lub sijhawm pw lossis noj mov.
Create a Diversion
Txoj kev ua khawv koob tom qab ib qho kev dag ntxias ib txwm nyob hauv kev cuam tshuam uas tau muab los ntawm tus kws tshaj lij tus pab cuam. Tib qhov chaw siv rau kev txwv tsis pub muaj kev ntxhov siab. Yog tias koj xav nres qhov kev tawm tsam, ces nrhiav txoj hauv kev muaj tswv yim los kos lawv cov xim kom deb ntawm txhua yam uas ua rau lawv chim siab. Hu nkauj, nug seb lawv puas xav ua si nrog koj, lossis pib ua yeeb yam! Cov khoom ua si Fidget kuj tuaj yeem yog qhov kev daws teeb meem zoo hauv cov xwm txheej no vim tias lawv txo qis kev ntxhov siab thiab ua rau muaj kev cuam tshuam.
Kho Lawv Ua Haujlwm
Lawv ua dabtsi? Koj thiab kuv paub tias kev ntaus thiab pov cov khoom ua si yog tus cwj pwm phem, tab sis lawv yuav tsis ua. Nws yog koj txoj hauj lwm ua niam txiv los hloov cov kev ua no. Yog hais tias lawv pov ib yam dab tsi, khaws nws thiab maj mam muab nws rov qab rau hauv lawv txhais tes, tab sis tsis txhob cia nws mus. Hloov chaw, hais tias: "Peb tsis muab pov tseg. Peb SET cov khoom ua si cia." Thaum koj hais qhov no, coj lawv txhais tes thiab maj mam kom lawv tso cov khoom ua si cia. Qhov no hloov 'ob lub sijhawm txaus ntshai' rau hauv kev kawm.
Nyob ib leeg
Qee lub sij hawm peb txhua tus yuav tsum tso peb txoj kev xav tawm. Thaum koj tus menyuam me zoo li tsis txaus siab rau cov kev daws teeb meem, muab sijhawm rau lawv tsib feeb. Muab lawv tso rau hauv qhov chaw nyab xeeb xws li lawv chav (yog tias tus menyuam pov thawj) lossis lawv lub txaj. Qhia rau lawv paub tias koj yuav cia lawv so thiab koj yuav rov qab los hauv tsib feeb thaum lawv tau so. Thaum xub thawj, qhov no tuaj yeem ua rau qhov kev poob qis zuj zus, tab sis muaj qee yam tsis txaus siab txog kev qw yam tsis muaj neeg tuaj saib. Thaum koj rov qab los, maj mam nug seb lawv puas xav rov koom nrog koj. Yog tias lawv chim siab dua, qhia rau lawv paub tias koj muab lawv tsib feeb ntxiv.
Yuav Ua Li Cas Tiv Thaiv Kev Nyuaj Siab
Zoo siab txais tos nej los koom kev lom zem ua ke, tab sis qhov zoo dua yog yuav ua li cas tiv thaiv kom tsis txhob tshwm sim tag nrho.
Pab Koj Tus Me Nyuam Me Nyuam Kom Paub Txog Kev Nyuaj Siab
Cov menyuam yaus muaj teeb meem txheeb xyuas lawv txoj kev xav. Txoj hauv kev zoo tshaj los daws qhov teeb meem no yog luam tawm cov duab ntawm cov neeg uas npau taws, tu siab, zoo siab, tshaib plab, thiab nkees. Raws li koj tus menyuam muaj ntau yam kev xav, qhia rau lawv cov "flashcards" thiab nug seb daim duab qhia tias lawv xav li cas. "Koj puas yog SAD?" "Qhov no puas ua rau koj MAD?" "Koj puas xav tias tshaib plab?" Nyob rau tib lub sijhawm, qhov no yuav pab lawv txheeb xyuas cov kev xav no. Khaws daim npav rau koj thiab, raws li cov xwm txheej no tshwm sim, lawv tuaj yeem taw qhia qhov teeb meem sai sai thiab txwv qhov ntev ntawm qhov tantrum.
Muab lawv xaiv
Cov menyuam yaus xav tau kev tswj hwm. Yog tias koj muab lawv cov yeej me me, lawv yuav zoo siab thiab koom tes ntau dua nyob rau lub sijhawm ntev. Piv txwv li, thaum lawv mus hnav khaub ncaws, cia lawv xaiv lawv lub ris, tsho, thom khwm, thiab lub tsho. Tus yuam sij rau kev vam meej tsuas yog muab ob txoj kev xaiv los txiav txim siab ntawm ob khub ris, ob lub kaus mom, thiab ob nkawm khau.
Qhov kev ua no dheev ua rau lawv muaj zog heev. Lawv tau txiav txim siab ntau yam, thiab koj txhawb cov kev xaiv ntawd. Cov niam txiv tuaj yeem muab cov cib fim no rau lawv thaum xaiv khoom noj txom ncauj, xaiv zaub los noj hmo, thiab thaum lawv ua haujlwm thaum pw. Piv txwv li, "Koj xav ua dab tsi ua ntej - da dej lossis txhuam koj cov hniav?" Ob qho kev ua ub no yuav tsum ua kom tiav, tab sis lawv xav tias lawv muaj qee lub zog hauv lawv txoj haujlwm hmo ntuj. Qhov no tuaj yeem pab nrog cov menyuam yaus me me thaum pw tsaug zog.
Nyob rau ib lub sij hawm
Cov menyuam yaus vam meej raws sijhawm. Khaws lawv lub sijhawm pw, sijhawm pw, thiab sijhawm noj mov zoo ib yam. Sim khiav koj cov haujlwm thiab sau koj cov kws kho mob cov sij hawm nyob rau tib lub sijhawm txhua hnub. Qhov no tso cai rau koj tus menyuam me los cia siab tias yuav muaj qee yam kev ua ub no, tshem tawm cov kev xav tsis thoob, uas tuaj yeem ua rau muaj kev ntxhov siab.
Tsim Kev Cia Siab Thaum Ntxov
Yog koj muaj tibneeg coob tagkis ua ntej, qhia rau koj tus menyuam yaus paub! "Peb muaj peb lub khw yuav mus rau hnub no thiab tom qab ntawd niam yuav tsum tau mus ntsib kws kho mob. Kuv nqa ntau cov khoom ua si thiab khoom noj txom ncauj, yog li kuv xav kom koj zoo." Thaum koj ua tiav los ntawm ntau yam uas yuav tsum tau ua hauv koj daim ntawv teev npe, qhia rau lawv paub tias yuav muaj dab tsi los tom ntej. Qhov no yog lwm txoj hauv kev yooj yim kom tshem tawm lub caij xav tsis thoob thiab pab lawv paub tias yuav xav li cas. Tib lub ntsiab lus no yuav tsum tau siv rau kev rau txim thiab. "Kuv nkag siab tias koj ntxhov siab, tab sis peb tsis muab pov tseg. Yog tias koj pov lwm yam khoom ua si, koj yuav tau sijhawm."
Ua Sijhawm Rau Koj Tus Menyuam
Qee lub sij hawm, tantrums raug khi rau qhov xav tau kev hlub thiab muaj nuj nqis. Koj tus menyuam xav tau kev saib xyuas. Lub neej tsis khoom, thiab qee zaum cov niam txiv tsis nco qab tias lawv yog qhov chaw nruab nrab ntawm lawv cov menyuam yaus lub ntiaj teb. Muab 30 feeb mus rau ib teev kom teem sijhawm lom zem nrog koj tus menyuam. Tsis tas li ntawd, ua ib qho taw qhia rau lub sijhawm koj siv nrog lawv. Piv txwv li, yog tias koj tus menyuam lub npe yog Beau, ces tshaj tawm hais tias, "Nws yog Beau lub sijhawm!" Qhov no ua rau lawv paub tias qhov no yog lub sijhawm lom zem thiab tsis muaj kev sib faib. Muab lawv tswj cov kev ua si uas koj ua si lossis phau ntawv koj nyeem. Tshem tawm kev cuam tshuam thiab ua qhov tseem ceeb rau lawv cov kev xav tau.
Thov Muab Sij Hawm Rau Lawv Pom Muaj Nqi
Cov me nyuam xav tau. Peb txhua tus ua. Lwm txoj hauv kev zoo rau kev tiv thaiv menyuam yaus me me yog kom muab lawv cov dej num thiab kev txiav txim siab txhua hnub. Kom lawv pab koj nqa cov khoom noj, pov cov khoom pov tseg hauv cov thoob khib nyiab, ntxuav cov tais diav tom qab noj hmo, thiab muab lawv cov khaub ncaws qias neeg hauv khaub ncaws. Cia lawv txiav txim siab txog qee yam khoom noj hmo thiab ua rau lawv txoj haujlwm pub tus dev. Qhov no tsis yog ua rau lawv xav tias tseem ceeb xwb, tab sis nws kuj qhia lawv lub luag haujlwm.
Tantrum vs. Meltdown: Qhov txawv yog dab tsi?
Ntau tus niam txiv siv lo lus meltdown thiab tantrum interchangeably, tab sis cov ntsiab lus no muaj ntau lub ntsiab lus txawv. Ib qho tantrum yog ib qho kev tawm tsam uas tshwm sim thaum tus menyuam ntxhov siab lossis npau taws vim lawv tsis nyiam qhov tshwm sim ntawm qhov xwm txheej. Cov ntu no feem ntau suav nrog stomping, qw, flailing ntawm caj npab thiab txhais ceg, ncaws, thiab txawm pov khoom.
Lawv feem ntau tshwm sim ntawm cov menyuam yaus hnub nyoog ntawm ib thiab peb (nruab nrab ntawm ob thiab peb) thiab lawv feem ntau nres sai tom qab tus menyuam hnub yug plaub. Hauv qhov sib piv, meltdowns tuaj yeem tshwm sim ntawm lub hnub nyoog ntawm ib txog rau 100. Cov no yog cov lus teb rau kev ntxhov siab, xav tsis thoob, nkees, tshaib plab, ntshai, lossis mob. Overstimulation (kev hnov mob ntau dhau) tuaj yeem ua rau cov ntu no. Cov no tuaj yeem ua rau muaj kev coj tsis zoo xws li thawb thiab ncaws, nrog rau kev quaj thiab qw.
Meltdowns and Tantrums are normal
Vim li cas tantrums thiab meltdowns tshwm sim? Thaum lub sij hawm me nyuam me me, koj tus me nyuam tsis paub yuav ua li cas paub lossis qhia qhov tsis raug. Qhov no yog ib feem ntawm tus me nyuam txoj kev loj hlob, thiab lawv yuav maj mam txo qis thaum koj tus menyuam pib nkag siab zoo txog lawv tus kheej thiab lub ntiaj teb ua haujlwm.
Lub sijhawm muaj kev nyuaj siab no, tseem ceeb heev rau cov niam txiv kom nyob twj ywm. Qhov no tuaj yeem ua haujlwm nyuaj, tab sis sim ua pa tob thiab suav mus rau tsib ua ntej teb. Tsis tas li ntawd, nco ntsoov tias txhua tus niam txiv tau daws qhov teeb meem no ntawm qee lub sijhawm hauv lawv lub luag haujlwm ua niam lossis txiv. Qhov no txhais tau li cas yog tias koj lub hom phiaj yuav tsum yog ntawm koj tus menyuam me thiab tsis yog txhua tus. Cia cov neeg saib xyuas saib thiab txiav txim. Ib hnub lawv yuav nyob ntawd.
Ntev npaum li koj kho rau lwm yam, qhov kev sib tsoo yuav nce ntxiv. Ua ntej koj tus menyuam thiab lawv lub siab xav. Muaj kev nkag siab thiab ua siab ntev. Tsis tas li ntawd, tsis txhob hnov qab txog koj cov menyuam yaus. Muab tus menyuam tso rau hauv lawv lub txaj txaj lossis lub rooj zaum siab. Nug koj cov menyuam yaus mus saib lawv cov yeeb yam uas lawv nyiam hauv lwm chav thaum nyob hauv tsev lossis xav txog tej yam uas koj tau tso tseg rau noj hmo thaum nyob rau hauv qhov khoom noj ntawm lub khw muag khoom noj.
Yuav Ua Li Cas Thaum Muaj Kev Nyuaj Siab
Qhov kawg uas yuav tsum nco ntsoov thaum me nyuam yaus muaj kev ntxhov siab yog tsis txhob ua rau lub siab xav. Qhov no tsuas yog qhia koj tus menyuam tias lawv tuaj yeem ua kom tau lawv txoj hauv kev. Kev nplua nuj kuj tsis yog lo lus teb. Cov niam txiv yuav tsum tsis txhob quav ntsej tus cwj pwm thiab. Koj xav kom koj tus menyuam yaus kawm paub paub txog lawv txoj kev xav thiab nkag siab tias muaj txoj hauv kev zoo dua los tiv thaiv ntau dua li muaj kev puas tsuaj. Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws, thaum lawv kawm kom tswj tau lawv txoj kev xav zoo dua thiab kho tus kheej hauv lub sijhawm npau taws thiab poob siab, qhuas lawv! Kev txhawb nqa zoo yog ib txoj hauv kev zoo los tsim tus cwj pwm zoo dua thiab pab txo qis me nyuam yaj.
